Friends First

I headed to Temecula for my friend Terence’s wedding today. It’s about 70 miles inland from where I live, so it made for a long windy drive! I had to go through some mountains and it took longer than I planned – luckily I left early.image

But, the drive was totally worth it. The outdoor ceremony was beautiful and the weather was perfect!IMG_0156 (800x600)

The wedding was held at a winery overlooking the vineyards and had the mountains in the background.IMG_0158 (800x600)

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Kyna was a beautiful bride SmileIMG_0164 (600x800)

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After the ceremony we enjoyed champagne outside.IMG_0172 (800x600)

This isn’t the best idea before a race, but I had to.IMG_0174 (800x600)

We went inside for appetizers IMG_0175 (800x600)

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I had one more round of champagne with my food.IMG_0184 (800x600)

Since I got married and moved far away from my friends I NEVER see them Sad smile I haven’t been the best friend lately and it was so so good to catch up with Lisa and my other peeps.IMG_0187 (800x600)

Then, it was time for the reception…IMG_0188 (800x600)

wedding table settings

wedding room

wedding place setting

wedding cupcake stand

They labeled my name tag Mrs. Monica Essenburg, but that’s not my name! I didn’t change it when we got married. But, it does make me smile a bit Smilethat's not my name

wedding name tags

outdoor winery

I grabbed a seeded roll with garlic butter to start.seedy roll at wedding

Saladsalad at wedding

Sorbet coursesorbet course at wedding

I got the menu fish

The happy couple <3happy couple

tiered cupcake wedding

You know how I run for the shirt? Well, I go to weddings for the cake! come for the cake

I got a carrot cupcake and a mocha one.  square wedding cupcakes

I meant to get home early, but I hadn’t seen two of my favorite people in such a long time I couldn’t make myself leave. monica at weddingIt’s currently 12:52 am and I’m eating a chicken veggie burger and blogging. Since I would have to wake up at 3:30am to run the half mary tomorrow I’ve decided not to run the race. I feel dumb for backing out in front of all you guys, but I’m super exhausted (from waking up at 2am on Friday and 5:30am today). Plus, I wanted to do the race “for fun” and waking up in 2 hours does not sound fun to me right now. I shouldn’t feel like I have anything to prove to anyone, but this is still embarrassing. Well, I do feel like I have to prove to my friends – that I’m alive and miss them Smile 

But, I will be doing 13.1 miles on my own when I wake up tomorrow! That’s a promise I’ll keep to myself and my blog friends!


  1. says

    I am proud of you for backing out of the race, but not backing out of running! You can just make it a virtual race and guess what, you’ll come in first place! Friends are certainly more important than anything. I used to think that I would never regret a workout, but I did regret workouts that I did instead of having coffee with a friend or something. It’s to keep your soul healthy!

  2. says

    Honestly, to me, important events with friends and family are a million times more important than any type of workout. Your friend’s wedding looks beautiful! Would you really have wanted to enjoy it any less? On top of it all, you’re still being a star and running on your own! That’s more than most people can say!

  3. says

    Don’t be embarrassed- it happens to everybody! At least you had a good reason (friends)! The same thing kinda happened to me once- I was supposed to do a race the day after prom, so I woke up after like 2 hours of sleep, spoke to my bff on the phone reassuring him I had dressed and was about to head out the door to meet him (I really was!) and I ended up falling asleep while tying my shoes sitting on my bed! Didn’t make the race lol…

  4. says

    Friends first is a good motto. Don’t feel bad for backing out of the race, sometimes other things are simply more important.

    The wedding looked absolutely gorgeous. What a beautiful day to get married outside….and those cupcakes!? Yum.

    I’m glad you had a good time catching up with your friends.

  5. says

    You have nothing to be embarrassed about! You chose to live your life, spend time with people you loved, and enjoy a beautiful celebration of love. Who cares if you’re backing out of a race because of it? You totally did the right thing!!!

  6. says

    I think it’s totally cool to decide friends come before the race. Don’t be embarrassed! It’s your life and you did the right thing for you.

    I didn’t change my name when I got married either. It’s amazing how people always just assume that you did. The history of women changing their name to that of their husband just isn’t something we wanted to be a part of, although we are very dedicated to each other and more in love than ever (after 17+ years of marriage). Good for you for not changing your name!

    Like you, I don’t mind when people call me “Mrs. Davis” even though that is not my name. I love my husband and don’t consider it an insult or anything, but I do think it is a sad commentary on society in general.

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      the fun and eeentxmcit that surrounded this very special day. To view the clip on their website, click here. This video is just a sneak peak so watch this space for

  7. says

    Yeah, Running a half marathon on less than 3 hours of sleep wouldn’t have been a good call, or fun at all. Good luck on your solo run! I know those can sometimes be harder than races.

  8. says

    Friends first is my motto! I think that’s definitely the best choice. On an unrelated note, I didn’t change my last name either and it often confused the heck out of people. It makes perfect sense to my husband and I, but sometimes other people just tilt their head with confused looks. lol

  9. Ida says

    I think you made the right choice- weddings happen once, races are every weekend. I’ve had cupcakes squared before- they are delicious!

  10. Kim says

    OMG!! those are the cupcakes I’m having at my wedding!! Cupcakes Squared is a few blocks from my house :)

  11. Rika says

    I’m a daily reader.. but I’ve never commented before! I just wanted to say: Life happens! You don’t need to feel guilty about your decisions! You did what you thought was best, and therefore it was right! Thanks for blogging, Monica. Your honesty and humor really pulls me into your blog! 😀

  12. says

    Monica you rock whether you run an organized race or not! It’s so nice to see people being real and investing time and energy into the other people and the relationships in their lives…something our world needs more of :) PS you looked reallllly pretty at the wedding!!

  13. says

    You would have been so tired and it would not have been fun before, during, or after. It was a little warm towards the end and the water stations couldn’t keep up with demand (as in I actually had to stop and wait to get water a few times)- if that makes you feel any better about skipping!

  14. Lindsay@Brownies For Brunch says

    Cute dress alert! You looked amazing at the wedding. I’m glad you went and had fun. Keeping in touch with friends is never a bad thing!

  15. Annemarie says

    I read your blog all the time but have never commented on it yet. I live in Temecula and Wiens is a great winery! I moved here a little over a year ago because I met my boyfriend and I moved out here from NY. It’s hard to make good friends with similiar interests when you dont know anyone. Wish you lived closer!

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