It’s hard to deal with feeling rejection when someone says something mean to you.
It sucks when someone isn’t a fan of what you have going on… but it’s a part of life.
The faster we can get back up after being knocked down the better.
You can’t change the people around you. But you can change yourself and how you react to adversity. More often than not, we let external situations or individuals take up space in our minds, dwelling on negative comments, actions, or disappointments. But those thoughts, if unchecked, become toxic, bothersome and overpower your mental peace. They end up living rent free in your head, draining your energy and focus. Instead of allowing negativity to dominate, choose to let go of what you cannot control. Embrace the power of self-reflection, understanding that your reactions define your growth. By releasing what doesn’t serve you, you free yourself to create a life full of positivity and resilience. In the end, it’s about reclaiming your mind and energy for your own well-being.
I’m sharing a story about how someone was a great example of that to me. It’s something I’ve tried to keep in mind when I get mean comments or post something on the blog or Instagram that doesn’t do well.
Focus on people who like and support you. Those are your people. Those people want your time and attention.
You deserve to be around people who are curious and kind and want to be on your side.
Thanks so much for this! I’ve been successfully avoiding some trigger foods for me by saying ‘NMF’ (not my food) and moving on. I think I can avoid the negative people by saying NMTA (not my target audience)!
Thank you for this. Today was craptastic day and this helped. Knowing that rejection is a part of life and I will not always be that person’s “target audience”.
I think this is such a great way to look at things. There are so many haters out there but if we focus on those who support us, life gets much easier. Thanks!
Great message. Life is too short to dwell on the negative. And as you said, you can’t change people. Thanks for sharing!
This completely made my day. I am so self-conscious about what people think of me, if they like me, if they don’t like me and why, etc. There seems to be some rejection in my work place and for a while, it consumed me on every level. I tried everything I could to try and get these women to like me/accept me and it caused me such anxiety. I brought it home with me, got depressed, and have no idea why! Finally I decided I didn’t need these people in my life. Yes I work with them every day and have to deal with their comments about whatever, but they will not be in my life forever and the ones that do matter will be. I just love your blog and this one was awesome, thank you for sharing 🙂
This is perfect. I try to convey the same message to my teenaged daughters all the time! HUGS 🙂
Way to go, Monican!!
Absolutely nailed it! Great message, thanks so much, Monica. This is a major reason why I read your blog. Choose people who choose you should be something everyone realizes these days, I think it would make this little world we live in so much better.
Love this, and love the idea of applying it to dating. Rejection is hard no matter what, but this helps shift the lens a little bit. Thanks!
I LOVE this!
Love this. A good reminder for any area in life. Also, a good reminder that it is okay that I don’t ‘mesh’ with everyone. I mesh with you though.
Nicely put!! I will remember that one! Thanks!
Well said! I’ll never understand folks who take their time to read blog posts only to make rude comments…like, why??? I stick with that old saying, “if you don’t have anything nice to say…” I really enjoy reading your blog–thanks for doing what you do!!
Love this 🙂
These are great tips! I’m very mindful of what people say, and these have helped me a lot!
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