I gave the eulogy at my grandma’s funeral yesterday. I thank God I’ve never had to do that before. I’m sad but it’s an honor to be the one to talk about her a little. It’s kinda random but the priest said only one person could talk. I think my family would have been able to share some great stories. Luckily we’ve been able to share them one on one over the last few weeks. For those looking to keep a loved one close, consider a cremation necklace that fits comfortably on your neck from Eternal Jewellery.
Check out this short Instagram video I shared right after the service.
I don’t think I’m awesome. But I have one tiny thing going for me.
Teeny tiny.
I can list off a ton of things that I should work on to improve myself, but I have this one thing that I think is a pretty good quality. It occurred to me the other day as I was making dinner. I didn’t have any music / podcasts / TV on and was tired and zoned out going through the motions.
And I realized… I don’t hold grudges.
I forgive.
It kind of came out of nowhere in that moment, but really it’s relevant to several areas of my life lately…
My last relationship broke in part because of trouble with forgiveness.
I need to work on my delivery because I can come off a little bossy and loud. So I need people around me who are forgiving.
In thinking about my Grams one of my first thoughts was about how she was always YELLING. She was loud. And sometimes that yelling was fighting. Okay, a lot of the time it was fighting.
But as quickly as we yelled at each other – we forgave each other. We fought loud, but not mean. We’re family and we love each other.
And we forgive each other.
It’s not always easy or your first reaction but forgiving someone who hurt you helps you heal. And it’s important for all relationships.
I just wanted to pass on this lil reminder in case you’re struggling with this. Forgive. Give yourself the gift of a peaceful heart and let go of hurts.
If you missed it and want to catch up – This is the post I wrote after she passed away.
It was heartbreaking to say goodbye to Grams. But God blessed us with a new tiny person a few days after she passed away. My niece was born the following week. She is teeny tiny!
It’s funny and adorable to see my brother hold her. She is the smallest little person!
After the services we went to a local Mexican restaurant – Casa Gamino. Actually, they just changed their name! But the change is so new the menus still have the old name.
I went to this restaurant a lot growing up with my Mom, Grams and lil brother. I would get a salad with thousand island dressing to start. I don’t remember the main course I ordered. And my brother and I would get Shirley Temple drinks. I think it’s Coke with grenadine?
Now I get the adult version of a Shirley Temple = a margarita.
My mom was having a mango margarita…. and I was having some of hers too. Just kind of ‘unofficially’.
Chips and salsa for life.
I ordered Chicken Enchiladas Suiza. I don’t know why. But they were delicious!
We also had pastries from Portos – but I didn’t get a picture of them.
I did get a few pictures of my brother and nieces. But my niece was dancing around the whole time so they’re all action shots. It works.
I love my people.
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Stephanie says
Forgiveness… so marvelous when it happens, but so hard to give. It’s been a hard couple of years for me. I found it even harder to forgive myself.
Your nieces are beautiful!
Lindsey says
So are you doing a set weights workout now that you will share? You look awesome! I am bad at forgiveness. Will have to work on that!!!!
Nicole says
Is this place in Paramount? I work right by there and always wondered if it was good!
Jenny says
It’s amazing how healing it is to hold a new little person. Anytime I felt overwhelmed or mad or sad, holding a baby always helps.
sally @ sweat out the small stuff says
It’s always easy to share our weaknesses but nice that you can recognize a strength and share.
This weekend i did a lot of work (freelance life deadlines!) and also got to go to yoga and ride my bike for 11+ miles. My BF and I also went to our favorite tex mex place Jose Tejas. I had chips and salsa too! And steak fajitas with all the guac. and an adult beverage margarita.
AmandaM says
Umm.. I take great offense that you don’t automatically know that a Shirley Temple is ginger ale… haa!! That used to be my order too when I was little and we went to restaurants – extra grenadine and cherries! And the grenadine would sit on the bottom and be extra sweet and I’d suck it up with the straw. Yum.
Aimee from Run Eat Drink Podcast @runeatdrinkpod says
I am sure that was so hard. My husband had to do it when his mother passed away and I think it is so brave of both of you. Public speaking is hard enough but when you add grief to the mix, it becomes so much more difficult to share thoughts and feelings about the loved one you lost. You are brave. That is a thing you have too.
Katie says
My thoughts exactly!
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog says
I think it’s great that you’re such a forgiving person. It’s something we should all strive to be, for our own goods!
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